I was doing a little blog reading on my "lunch break" over here and came across this article:
Go ahead and click over, it's short and to the point:)
How to be Humble
ht: http://doingmybestforhim.blogspot.com/
This is an area that is important for me to work on....the idea that I don't have the most interesting thing to say when meeting someone new or even talking to friends. AARGH! This is a hard one. I find so often that I just can't wait to blabber about whatever I'm thinking rather than actually l i s t e n i n g to another human being.
I have been really impressed by some good listeners lately. I want to be a good listener!
Anyone else have trouble with this?
Go ahead and click over, it's short and to the point:)
How to be Humble
ht: http://doingmybestforhim.blogspot.com/
This is an area that is important for me to work on....the idea that I don't have the most interesting thing to say when meeting someone new or even talking to friends. AARGH! This is a hard one. I find so often that I just can't wait to blabber about whatever I'm thinking rather than actually l i s t e n i n g to another human being.
I have been really impressed by some good listeners lately. I want to be a good listener!
Anyone else have trouble with this?
Well absolutely. My simple handle is humble wife but I had to allow my defense of being at home create a massive love me post. I am so ashamed.
ReplyDeleteSometimes the ones that trigger a response are the ones closest to you, and I had been told this past week that a job would allow Bill and I to have more.
Thanks for sharing and boy am I in need of some serious reflection on Him and the things that are real, true, perfect, and lovely.
I am so grateful that I have people all over that I can stop and learn from...even if I knew it and then allowed myself to forget.
Jennifer
Oh Ma! I'm right there with you! I yack, yack, yack all the time and walk away wondering why I think what I have to say matters so much!
ReplyDeleteSuch good advice in that post I must keep in mind. Listening is so hard!
I believe that for most of us, it takes years to learn to be a good listener. I have heard that God gave us TWO ears and ONE mouth for a reason. So we will listen twice as much as we talk. I have some friends who you cannot even get a word in edgewise, and they have no idea what they miss. They don't even laugh at jokes with the others. This is not because they don't have a sense of humor, but they didn't hear it, they were too busy talking.
ReplyDeleteHi Jennifer,
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry you were put on the defensive. I know that you wouldn't want anything else than what you have, you are truly content. That is worth all the "more" in the world. BTW, I liked your love me post. It is good for the rest of us who are in the same profession really think about how our time is not wasted:)
Hi Michelle,
Nice to see you:) Listening IS hard. I stopped myself from butting in a couple of times this weekend, but it really takes effort.
Ginny,
That is so true. It may just be a level of maturity that I haven't yet reached. In my little 39 years on this planet, I have found that it is really a wonderful thing is grow up. I don't want to be one of those edgewise people.....anymore:)
Ah yes, Ma, listening is an art of attention. I was so over self conscious about things going well that upon a compliment on one of my Thanksgiving dishes, I absolutely flubbed it by going on & on about how it really wasn't anything special, hew!!! embarrassing silence from 20 people who had to question whether it indeed was any good. Oops, such an ungraceful moment. All I had to do was say, "Thank you, I'm glad you like it." Luckily I shut my mouth after that & it passed. Balance, balance, balance, I gotta practice every day!!!
ReplyDeleteAn art of attention. I like that musemater. An art.
ReplyDeleteIt is true that we are all going so fast these days that it is very hard to stop and do anything (one anything) at a time. An art, a discipline.
I gotta know what this dish is now;)
"I find so often that I just can't wait to blabber about whatever I'm thinking rather than actually l i s t e n i n g to another human being." You took the words right out of my much-too-busy mouth! I'll hop over to that article now.
ReplyDeleteHi Ma, The "dish" was a tropical spice layer cake that took me 3! hours to make that didn't turn out like the photo in the magazine. Talk about being out of balance (a little Martha-ish lol!)
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